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When Grandmother speaks the world will be healed.” I no longer remember when or where I first heard this Native American statement. I do remember the feeling I had when I first heard it – I was thrilled and challenged. I was also the grandmother of two.

What could I say that would heal the world? Would I recognize it? Do I know? Does anyone?

I’ve been pondering this as a two more grandkids were born and we all got older.

I’ve finally recognized that it’s unlikely I’ll be the grandmother who will speak the words to heal the planet, at least not by myself. But it may be that my words might help. If others, grandparents or not, join me, who knows, but I suspect we’re only limited by our imagination and belief.

That wish increased when I accepted Jonathan Fields’ challenge to begin each day on Twitter with the simple question: Who can I help today?

It’s a lovely way to start my day on the computer.

My name is Anne Wayman. Some of you know me from my writing blog, About Freelance Writing; others might recognize me from my book and website, Powerfully Recovered – a confirmed 12 Stepper challenges the movement – (www.powerfullyrecovered.com). I also blog with Ellie Winslow at Old Fat Broads Lose Weight. If you’re in San Diego who knows where we might have met.

Oh, and you can follow me on twitter at: http://twitter.com/AnneWayman

You can email me at: anne @ whengrandmotherspeaks . com

Now, who can I help today? Who can you help today?

Anne Wayman: When Grandmother Speaks

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Jacquelin Erwin February 21, 2011 at 2:41 am

Hi Anne
I said hello to you today at Cait and michael Ann’s and thanked you for your reading. Thank you!

I move about in this world – go through my day – find myself in my ego with all the accompanying judgement and fear … but always always always I asnswer myself with the truth as I believe it to be. There is ONE people and I am that. My only purpose is to stay awake and remember!

I remeber when Joan Baez taught me – “There but for Fortune Go you or I.” I remeber when Joni Mitchell said “we’ve got to get ourselves back to the garden.” I remeber Cris Williamson saying “won’t you wake me up someone!” And John lennon said, “You may say I’m a dreamer, but I’m not the only one!”

Every day I “forget to remember ” and then every day I wake myself up again an REMEMBER! (Holly Near – Planet Called Home)

So I will join you. I will make a commitment in every moment of every day to BE the VOICE FOR COMPASSION. Everyday I will take full responsibility for the choas I believe I see – recognize it is a reflection of the choas in my mind – and cast light on it – not judge it – just watch it with compassion and let it go.

I come from this wonderful beautiful lesbian community. I will be 60 this year … and yes … i am a grandmother. I literally grew up with most of the wimmin at the gathering today and I am pleased and proud to call myself a radical feminist lefty dyke. I remeber being young and self- righteous … we were right and good – and “they” were bad and wrong. I dont remeber when I realized that I cannot believe that we are ONE if I still think there is someone outside of me who is different than me, who is the problem or the perpetrator or the “bad Guy.” It is many many years now and I trip and stumble a lot. Still – there is an ideal I will hold and live the very best I can in every moment – as long as i seem to find myself here.

Yes I AM the ONE. I CAN put myself in his shoes – her shoes – cuz no matter what I think I see – I have felt that. I have been that angry. I have been that frightened. And I CAN offer love compassion and non judgement. I do not mean i am never in judgement. I think I am the worst! I judge people who are judgemental. I am angry at people who are filled with anger. I hate people who hate …

and then i remember to remeber – it is my life’s work and i get better at it all the time.

Thank you for speaking and thank you for listening. I look forward to reading more.


Jacquelin Erwin February 21, 2011 at 2:59 am

ps Do you know Dr Hew Len … ho oponopono


he “healed” and subsequently closed an entire hospital of violent criminals by asking for healing and forgiveness – he never saw a single patient – he took each file and asked hi higher power to heal whatever was inside of him that was reflected in these violent acts

the ancient Hawaiian practice of ho oponopono

ho oponopono
i’m sorry
please forgive me
i thank you
i love you

annew February 21, 2011 at 3:03 pm

You’re welcome Jacqelin, and thanks for sharing and making a commitment to compassion.

annew February 21, 2011 at 3:05 pm

No, I wasn’t familiar with Dr. Len’s work… but somehow I’m not surprised. It saddens me we don’t allow this sort of thing to happen more often, insist on it even.

Tom October 9, 2011 at 1:56 am

You Can Help Make This a Better World in Just Five Minutes by Signing the Petition at wh.gov/gJG. Will You?

annew October 17, 2011 at 11:06 pm

Tom, I did sign, but will you tell us why you think we need a constitutional amendment?

Ivan Walsh November 2, 2011 at 5:00 pm

Hi Anne,

Lovely site you have here. I’ll drop you a line about the White Paper guest post later today.


annew November 9, 2011 at 5:34 pm
Donna Marie Johnson January 17, 2012 at 7:02 pm

Love the compassionate community you’ve created here, Anne. Thank you for following your conscience and being a visible voice online!

annew January 18, 2012 at 3:58 pm

You’re welcome! Glad you’re comitted.

William Wayman June 3, 2015 at 9:16 pm

Hello, I am just responding since i noticed your name is the same as mine and I know our name is very unusual. Do you have any roots in the UK by any chance?

annew June 4, 2015 at 1:41 pm

Yes, some…

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